One of your choices for your pregnancy is adoption. Like all of your choices, making an adoption plan is a serious and difficult decision. We want to give you as much information as possible so you can make a truly informed choice.
What Is Adoption?
Adoption is a lifelong parenting relationship for a child. Legal adoptions permanently transfer all rights and responsibilities from the biological parent or parents to the adoptive family who is chosen by the birth mother (and father, if available).
The process begins when a birth mother (and father) decides adoption is the best choice for her pregnancy. You are in complete control of the adoption process. You decide who the adopting couple will be, what type of home life you want for your child, and how much contact you wish to have in the future.
In order to adopt, families go through detailed interviews, background checks, and home visits to determine if they qualify. The process takes time and can be very emotional for both sides, but also very rewarding. Adopting families pay for all costs associated with the adoption. The birth mother pays nothing during the process.
Types of Adoption
There are many ways to be a mother. Adoption is one option. As the birth mother, you choose your plan based on how involved you wish to be in your child’s future. There is no right or wrong plan.
An open adoption plan means you and the adoptive family share identifying information such as full names, phone numbers, and addresses. You will have access to one another through face-to-face meetings, phone calls, texts, and letters. Together, with the adoptive family, you determine the amount of contact everyone is comfortable with.
Some families have very close relationships with their child’s birth mother and possibly the father. The birth family becomes another extension of the adoptive family. They regularly see one another and in some circumstances, the birth mother is able to spend time alone with her child. Others limit their contact to only phone calls and Facebook messages.
Some women who choose adoption prefer to have no communication with the adoptive family or their child. They feel contact would make it even harder to move on with their lives. As the birth mother, you may choose the adoptive family or ask an attorney or agency to choose one for you based on what family you want for your child.
Regardless of how the adoptive family is chosen, your identity remains completely anonymous in a closed adoption. You have total anonymity.
Think of a semi-open adoption as a plan somewhere in between the other two. With this type of adoption, all of your communication will be through a third party such as a lawyer or an adoption agency. You will still choose the adopting family, but you have more control over the amount of contact you have.
Usually, the birth mother and adoptive family exchange first names, but no other identifying information such as phone numbers or addresses are shared. You can still agree to contact one another. Letters and photos would go through the lawyer or agency first. Then, they would be forwarded to either the birth mother or the adoptive family.
How To Know If Adoption Is Right For You
We want to provide the emotional support you will need to choose what is best for you and your baby. Together, we can talk about the pros and cons of adoption, provide referrals to adoption agencies, and give you all the information you need to make the best choice.
Every woman comes to the decision to make an adoption plan differently. Some women deeply struggle and others know with certainty it is what’s best for both themselves and their child. Either way, you don’t have to make this decision on your own. We’re ready to take this life journey with you.
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