She thinks she’s pregnant? So, what does this mean for you? We have some suggestions that we hope will give you an idea of what to do and what not to do.
What To Do
- Come see us for a free and confidential pregnancy test. Even if she has taken an at-home test, it is important to have it verified with a lab-quality test that is 99% accurate as early as two weeks after conception.
- If the test is positive, your next step is to schedule an ultrasound exam. Not only will you learn if her pregnancy is viable, you will find out the estimated due date.
- Now is the time to stay calm. You have the responsibility to help her make an informed decision. Nobody, not her friends or parents, can have more influence on her decision than you, and no one should have to make this decision alone.
- It’s a very important decision and one you need to make together. Let her know she is not alone. Listen to what she is truly saying, not the fear behind her words.
- Share with one another your thoughts and feelings. It’s normal to be mad, frustrated or worried. Hiding your feelings only increases stress.
- Gather the facts about abortion procedures, choosing an adoption plan, or the possibility of parenting. You have options. We can help you be informed.
What Not To Do
- Do not bail on her. The more you deny what happened, the harder it gets. The fact that you are here reading this means you are concerned about your next steps. Be the man of integrity you are.
- Do not pressure her. Forcing a decision will only cause regret. You have time to get the facts to make an informed decision. This is a serious choice that will affect both of you for the rest of your lives. She needs your support.
- Do not let anyone else pressure you. Ultimately, whatever choice the two of you make, you will live with the consequences, not them.
Your Next Step
If she is pregnant, it impacts both of you. It’s OK to be overwhelmed. No matter what your relationship is like now, you’re in this together. Once you have all of the facts, it’s time to make a decision.
You have a right to be and should be a part of the process. Contact us today and let us help you work through this important decision. Remember, all of our conversations and services are free and confidential.